Books on Cheating

Infidelity is not the average person’s choice of reading, but books on cheating can help you through a dark and miserable time in your life.  I have written two books so far on the subject and am currently writing a third. The books I have written have been in response to requests from subscribers, so they may not be what you are looking for if you are at a different stage of surviving infidelity.  You can find information on Reasons Why Men Cheat on this website. The latest book I have published is Don’t Lie to Her, which is also available from Amazon Kindle – see below, plus you can read my auhor page at amazon.com/author/tammydavidson

If you have just discoverd that your partner is cheating on you, then you may need some help figuring out what to do. Although the ideal approach is to organize some counseling for the both of you, this is not always feasible. For one thing, counseling can cost a lot of money! For another, there is always a long waiting list for good counselors.  Once you get your counseling arranged you may find that they can only see you, say once a month or fortnight at best.  This may be a suitable time interval for the tasks they set you, but is not always a lot of help when you wake at 3am in distress! You may decide that you need to know some answers and reading a few books on cheating can help you to clear up some confusion.

How do you choose books on cheating?

There is a lot of material out there, some of it is really good, some less so. The other thing to remember is that what works for your aunts’s friend in Boston, may not be suitable for you! Yes, recommendations are good, and certainly reviews of books on cheating can give you an idea of what they are like.  However, infidelity, like most realtionship problems, varies according to the couple involved. You may want a blunt approach in the books you read, someone else may want a more spiritual angle to their advice. There are ways you can decide on the right book for your circumstance.

Selecting books on cheating

Most books have a description of the content and the tone of that description can be helpful. Is the author someone who has experience in the field? Don’t always choose the “experts” books, in other words, a lot of professional sounding titles does not make an expert! Ordinary people with extraordinary lives often make really good authors. Check out the writer; do they have a blog, a website, somewhere you can see how they write? Are they writing the book as part of their whole comittment to relationship advice or do they seem as if they write books on just about anything they think will sell? Sadly, books on cheating do sell well, it is part of the human condition!  If you go to the Amazon Kindle store, you may be able to find a book that is free, or if you are a Prime member, you can borrow books, as you do in a library.  New authors often offer their books for free to start with and then once established offer them as paid versions.

Different stages require different infidelity advice

You may be further down the road of surviving infidelity, so the books on cheating that you need may have a different slant now to later. Repairing your relationship is a journey; you need different tools at different stages of the journey. Generally speaking it goes like this; the first stage is wanting to know why? This can last an uncomfortably long time if your partner is not willing to talk about the affair. You move from this first stage of shock and disbelief to wanting to know what needs to change for the relationship to survive.  You then need some sort of plan to help put the pieces back together. Also, there are different forms of infidelity; sexting, emotional affairs and online cheating to name just three! There are different topics within the library of infidelity, so read the book blurb carefully before buying.

Does your partner need any books on cheating?

Several of my subscribers are men and they bemoan the lack of reading material on the topic of infidelity which they can engage with.  Their complaint is that whilst there are books on cheating wives, there is not much to help them if they are the cheater, or if they truly want to repair the relationship. That is one of the reasons that I wrote, Don’t Lie to Her – a Survive guide for Cheating Husbands. Other women have told me that reading books on cheating WITH their husbands has helped a lot as they then find that they start actually talking to each other!

Communication is one of the biggest issues for couples surviving infidelity and there are some really good books out there aimed at reestablishing the lines oof communication in the midst of the emotional turmoil. Whilst i still think that couples would do well to get counseling to help them through the trauma of infidelity; I also feel that reading a good book on the topic can be very beneficial. Books on cheating will continue to be written whilst men and women continue to cheat!