Having a love child the celebrity way
It seems that fathering a child from a secret affair is a popular past time among the rich and famous! People in the public eye tend to keep this a secret and when the news breaks there are some divided opinions. See A Love Child to read these opinions! Rarely do we understand the damage done to the child itself, see Children of affairs
Firstly, there is the fact that they had an affair – frowned on by many but also applauded by some as a sign of virility! What about the shame of this situation? These disclosures seem to fall into two categories; the secret love child discovered (by the press) after many years; or the publicly pregnant mistress selling her story to the tabloid newspapers. There is a very different morality in play here, depending on the situation.
Adults who finally discover who their real father is may be very conflicted
Being the product of an affair, or even a participant can be so shameful, and it takes courage to open up about it. – See more at: http://alovechild.com/read-the-blog
It may be that the father was a very prominent figure in public life and the scandal of infidelity would ruin him. So, the child of this affair becomes a secret, never to be mentioned, kept in the dark about their parentage even by their mother! Growing up without a father is tough, made tougher if you believe you have been actively rejected by them! Lies are told, because the truth is so hurtful; you were not wanted and your mother may try to protect you by inventing a story to cover for the absent father. All too often, though, the truth will out!
The newspapers love stories about having a love child!
The New York Post broke the story about Dan Marino’s love child last month and it would seem that he paid the mother handsomely to keep the child a secret. For many, child support is a long drawn out battle in the courts but the rich it seems are not immune to this either.
Cheating catches up with Hugh Grant! We all remember the story of Hugh Grant and the prostitute, well he has now gone one step further…
It took 16 years, but Hugh Grant has finally done something to overshadow his arrest for soliciting a prostitute – fathered a love child…. see the article in Australian Womens Weekly
Denying having a secret love child
Thank heavens for DNA – well should we? If you have to confirm who your father is through a DNA test, then it is a pretty sad state of affairs. Worse, the fact of the DNA test is that there is doubt, that a man is denying being your father, how hard is that to take?
Jude Law and Orson Welles are just two of the many famous people who have been amidst paternity disputes and have required DNA paternity testing to solve them. DNA testing
Some celebrities are the target of women looking for financial gain from their affair and this clouds the issue for those whose need for support is genuine.
Children of affairs in the public eye
How tough must it be growing up knowing that when your mother was pregnant she told the world that you were the product of an affair? The damage done to a child’s sense of self worth in this situation must be immense. Not only do they have to deal with the shame of the affair, but also the wrangling between parents as the paternity is proven or disproved. This is an extreme case of infidelity as leverage and payback for the cheating man. It may not be that the man in question is a celebrity, but you can bet he is rich!
Surviving the knowledge of him having a love child
The wronged wife also has to bear the humiliation of her husband’s infidelity being public knowledge and her shame is magnified by other people’s commentary. There are several victims in this scenario and they need support to survive this and come out the other side intact. For many women whose partner has cheated on them there is a way back into the relationship. When a love child is involved that becomes a harder path to tread. There is a constant reminder of the betrayal and if a paternity suit is involved; potential public washing of dirty laundry. The child will need financial support and the father, if he is half decent, will want some contact with the child.
Help and advice will be needed for the marriage to survive and the child to grow up with as much normality as possible. I am not sure that being a celebrity’s child makes it any more bearable, despite the financial implications. The stigma of illegitimacy is still around, even in the 21st century and the feelings of rejection are just as intense whether your family be rich or poor, famous or ordinary.
Having a love child may be newsworthy if you are rich and famous, but it is still a tornado in the middle of a relationship with damage all round being the outcome. If you are in the middle of this storm, then find yourself a forum where you can talk it through, such as http://alovechild.com/join-the-forum/ or drop us a line and let us help you get through this.
Yes, having a love child will endanger your marriage, but not necessarily end it. What must happen though, if your partner is having a love child, is that you respect that child’s rights to good parenting and do not blame it for the situation.