How to End Emotional Cheating?

How to end an emotional cheating, if you are the cheating spouse!

You are into an emotional cheating, at first it was a friendship, then you became closer than you imagined possible, until that person has become as important to you as your spouse, maybe more important? In your heart, you knew that the secrecy and the lies and your reluctance to let your spouse know anything about this other person, all added up to an affair, it just had not reached a physical level. Now you need to learn how to end an emotional affair, but first you have to understand the full extent of your betrayal. You have two people to make amends with, your spouse, and your friend for whom this became more than a friendship.

In order to succeed, you must take responsibility for your actions and be very, very clear about what you want to do next. There are three possibilities; you end emotional cheating and repair your marriage; you want to repair your marriage, but your spouse will not forgive you and wants a divorce; you want to end your marriage and the emotional cheating moves to the next level. This article is only going to look at ending an emotional affair as an option, and repairing your marriage being the objective. Even if your spouse, at this stage, wants the marriage to be over, if you do not, then you will have to fight to save your marriage. You are likely to need help to do this, a good place to start is Break Free From the Affair. You may also want to consider counseling.

Ending emotional affairs is not simply a case of goodbye and it is over!

How to end emotional cheating

Your first step is to understand the challenges you will face; ending emotional affairs is not simply a case of goodbye and it is over! You have made an emotional connection with a person you will probably see every day, and they deserve an honest explanation, and a clear statement that you are committed to repairing your marriage and that this relationship threatens that. This may be the first time you realize how the other person truly feels, they too have been in a sort of denial. It is going to be painful and messy, and unless they are an outstandingly tolerant person, they will be angry. You have to be clear about the level of contact from now on, no coffees, chats, lunches, small, intimate moments! You cannot have anything other than the most businesslike and professional relationship from now on, and the emotional affair is over.

Your spouse may or may not at the early stages be willing to work on saving the marriage. If you want to save your marriage then you need to work out why you had an emotional cheating in the first place; and why you shut your spouse out of your emotional confidences and deny them that intimacy. Your spouse will need to be very sure that the emotional affair is over, will need that reassurance often, and then an emotional cheating recovery may be possible. There is no quick fix for betrayal, and there will be times when the initial pain returns without warning and your spouse will not trust you for some time. If you are serious about saving your marriage, then read the next article.

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