Is he cheating?- Five Cheating Signs to Look For Before You Take Action
“Is he cheating on me?”
If you are asking yourself the question “is he cheating on me?”, then, whether he is or not, the fact is that there is something going wrong in your relationship. Everyone encounters good times and bad times, but it’s how you deal with your situations that is a deciding factor in how your life with your significant other will turn out.
So you are having your suspicions. Am I paranoid or is he cheating or am I crazy? Here are 5 good indicators that can help you to decide if he is.
I call these five the is he cheating on me signs
- You have had the feeling that something is just not right in your relationship and you finally get the courage to question him about what he has been up to these past few months/years. A great indication that there is something different in his life is denial. If he gets very defensive about your questions then he is hiding something. It may not be infidelity, but it is something. Some men may even get angry and yell in the hopes that you will not ask anymore. But my advice is ask anyway. You may not like the response you get from him when you ask, but knowing is better than being lied to in the long run.
- Are his stories conflicting? Many times men will make up stories “on the fly” and in a day or two forget what they have told you previously. If you are suspecting your partner of having an affair then keep track of the stories he tells you. Many occasions he will use work as an excuse. This is not always a sign. Some men do actually have overtime! Go figure!
- He now has his cell phone and credit card bills emailed to him, and you don’t have access to that email! If he is making a significant amount of calls to this person, he doesn’t want to blow his cover with a cell phone bill or credit card bill. Chances are he will have these bills emailed to him on an account YOU don’t have the password to.
- He won’t invite you to company events or around his friends. There could be a couple of reasons that he doesn’t invite you to social events at work. One may be that the stresses of his job are so great that he wants to have distance between his job and his home life. The other reason is that there is something at work he doesn’t want you to know about (usually the other person!). When it comes to keeping you away from his friends there is definitely a reason. Think about it. Who knows you as well, if not better, than your spouse? Your friends! If he is keeping a secret from you it’s possible they know too!
- He is clearing his call logs and getting calls at weird times of the day. If all of a sudden he can no longer have a phone conversation while in the same room as you then there is a problem. There shouldn’t be any call that he can’t have in front of you. If the ringer is always off on his phone, and he acts “strange” when he does answer the phone, question him. Maybe he does have a good excuse, but if you don’t ask you won’t know!
Please take care that you keep a level head when you look closely at your husband’s behavior. Yes, it can be very disturbing to have to ask yourself am I paranoid or is he cheating? But you do really want to know is he cheating or not? Keep reading this blog for more suggestions from someone who once doubted their partner’s loyalty and asked themselves this question several times- is he cheating .
Dear M
condoms on their own mean nothing..they may well be left over and he could have found them while he was sorting his stuff and simply put them in the drawer…the most straightforward thing to do is to ask him..lightly..you know, “Hey found these..want me to chuck them, or do you see a need for them?
if in addition to the condoms you have other suspicions..then only you can decide if you want to pursue this further. You could try some software to track his emails and phone calls, see my posts on spying on cheating husbands and the phone detective.
Alternatively you could just watch and wait and see if you spot anything suspicious.
If you want to take this course, it means waiting while you find out over a period of time, meanwhile you will have to lie to him! You could just ask him directly, “are we exclusive? is this going somewhere? Are you seeing somebody else?” – you then have to decide if he is telling the truth…
If you suspect infidelity, you won’t rest until you prove it one way or another..so check ot my posts on catching a cheating spouse and signs of an affair.
let me know how it goes?
Tammy
Tammy. My boyfriend and I have been together going on 3 years. For the last year I have been on the iud so we don’t use condoms. And from my knowledge he hasn’t purchased any since we last used them which was last year. Lastnight while I was straighten up the room I go to put some papers in a drawer and I found two individually wrapped condoms that looked like they have just came out of a box… I haven’t said anything to him about them I just don’t know what to do.. Please help.
Dear cynical
I think you already know he is cheating..or at least thinking of it..7 months is not very long..he does not see this as a serious relationship and is struggling to decide whether he wants to commit..so he is “testing” the field.
Step away, step back, cool this, become unavailable..yours was a friendship that evolved and he is now not sure..go back to what worked for you as friends..take time for yourself..he wants to be alone, don’t mope at home..don’t answer his texts immediately..start building yourself an independent life..he will come back and be closer if he realises it is truly you that he wants..
Tammy
Dear Tammy, my boyfriend and I are going on 7 months and I know he has cheated on someone before. He tells me he wouldn’t and we were best friends for a long time before we started dating. We fight a little more than we should, and sometimes if he doesn’t text me back right away, the question “is he cheating?” pops up. He does things that are suspicious. He takes his phone to the bathroom with him or if I play a game on it, he watches me like a hawk. The other night out of no where he actually wanted to have sex and was all over me, which isn’t him. He asks for days when he can have time to himself and he never used to. He talks to other girls and it doesn’t bother me because both of them have boyfriends but they text him almost as much as I do and I’m his girlfriend. How do I tell if he’s cheating?
Dear D
next time your boyfriend is home, agree a reasonable amount of contact, he does not have to speak to you every day! If you keep accusing him of cheating he is going to think you don’t trust him and he mat aswell cheat!
Be careful of being clingy and suspicious when you really have no proof..long distance love is difficult but you can make it easier by just telling him you miss him and need to talk to him when he is away.
If he still ignores you, THEN worry, but unless you are sure he is cheating…for other reasons, then I think you just come across as insecure.
Try and keep yourself busy, do’t make him the only thing in your life, that is why you get so upset when you don’t hear from him.
Let me know how it goes?
Tammy
Dear Tammy, my boyfriend is in college and i hardly even hear from him. When come home some weekends, Its all good with us then. But when he goes back to school, Its a different story. Sometimes i dont hear from him all day. We have been together 2 years and he tell his family and friends that im the one he is going to marry. I ask him several times about him cheating and he still denies it. I have no proof of him cheating but my instincts are telling me that he is. I love him and i do want a future with him and i pray for god to save him. What should i do?
Dear H
ok this is the essential difference between men and women…men hate the “are you ok, what are you thinking/feeling?” stuff..they worry like we all do about work/study/relationships…but often they like to think it through for themselves and don’t want to talk about it.
As for your future, you don’t say how long you have been together, if it is less than a year, give the guy a break! He has school 6 days a week and this is important. He talks about getting married, he is ready for comittment in the future, this is good…but this is not NOW.
I imagine that he sees finishing school as important, and it is hard..that is his priority..what is yours?
I sense you invest too much in this relationship..what do you sepend your time doing when he is at school? Are you developing your own career, being independent?
marriage works best when two independent people decide to be together, but bring their own strengths to the partnership.
Back off the interrogation, be a little less intense, give this relationship time…NO I cannot say he will be faithful and YES i get that your history makes you nervous..BUT trust takes time to build, and men need time to decide if they want to commit…
When he is NOT distant one weekend, explain that you worry when he behaves like that because you want to help him..and he may explain how he feels…you could teach him a phrase..you know, he gets distant and you say, “you’ve gone into cave mode again” and he may then learn he does this..and say “hey, just work/school/tired” without either of you getting stressed.
NEVER press a guy who is being distant at the time he is doing it..take yourself off and go do something else and he will snap out of it if he wants to spend time with you..and if he needs time to himself, then accept this is important to him.
Bottom line, talk to him, but not when he is being distant because if he is worrying about something, you getting all anxious and needy will annoy him!
Hope that helps?
Tammy
I turely love my boyfriend, but idk if something is up. I have been cheated on before by an ex and it really messed me up. My new boyfriend is really different in a good way, but somedays I feel like something is wrong. He has school 6 days a week and we barley have time for each other, the weekends is the only time we have to spend some real time together. some days he just seems like he is really distant and like everthing bothers him and whenever he feels like that it makes me feel likesomething is going on or ive done something wrong I talk to him about it and he always says that he is just stressed out with school.He talks about our future and talks about wanting to get married and starting a family,I want all of that too, but dont know if I should believe him just yet. I hate the distant feeling and dont know if im just worrying for no reason.
Dear I Love him
NO, he will not change for you, he will change if and when he decides that you and he are serious. Right now he isn’t sure..that first month was him checking to see if he could get back with his ex girlfriend..and you forgave him..
This means one of two things to him,
1. he can cheat and it doesn’t matter
2. You are a good girlfriend he could get serious with
How do you know which one it is? OK, girl, you say you love him, you have been together for 5 months, that is not enough time to KNOW you love him, because as of now you don’t know him well enough. Yes, you are in love with him..he makes you want to be serious, to be faithful..that is YOUR choice, not his.
You have two options, you have “the talk” which most guys hate and makes them run fast in the opposite direction…fear of comittment being the reason
Alternatively, you pull back a little, you become a lot less available and more independent. This does not mean you go and sleep with other guys, but maybe you do go out without him, with your girlfriends and sometimes do not see him when he wants you to..if he complains or makes a remark..that is when you hit him with the “I got the impression you wanted to date, not that I am your girlfriend..are we exclusive then?”
Make him state the comittment..or if you cannot be bothered with the game playing (which is irritating but does work) just ask him outright, “Are we serious? Is this relationship exclusive? I cannot waste my time with someone who wants to play the field, so come back when you are ready to grow up!”
Either way my love, wondering aint gonna sort this out..communication, however hard, will.
Tammy
iLovemyBoyfriend with all my heart we have been together for about 5 months now but the first month he cheated on me -.- and i know i shouldnt have taken him back but i thought to myself maybe hes gunna change but then found out he broke up with me the first month because he went back & cheated on me w/ his ex girlfrienbut this is when my mind statte changed like does he really care about me? he did it once he can do it again!! hes the first guy im truly faithful too! but lately ive been having a feeling hes talkn to other females .. & he doesnt let me go threw his phone; it makes me wonder can i do better? can i find somebody i can trust or willhe change for me?
OK
you are living with this man..it was all a bit of a rush but your two families are working out..and some 5 months ago it seems he was perhaps uncertain about this and flirting with women via facebook…but not recently..and you don’t want to end the relationship…so don’t
BUT – your kids have a lot to lose if you guys are not solid and don’t work this out.
That is how you approach this..you clean out his inbox..delete his FB profile – have a joint one..where all the world can see you two are together..and you tell him in no uncertain terms that he needs to come clean about the whole thing or else it will be over because you cannot risk the pain and damage to your kids further on down the line.
Write down all the questions you want to ask..say you do NOT belive that ALL these women are lying or trying to break you up..for goodness sake what is he, some kind of super hunk they all want..get real! it is arrogance and stupid for him to say that..be robust in your challenge of that as a reason..frankly it’s the kind of thing we used to say in high school!
Be ANGRY, it is more effective than hurt..and yes of course you are feeling insecure..he has cheated..even if it was not full on intercourse..he lied and cyber cheated if nothing else! It does need to be laid to rest, you need answers and he has to give them to you or else, you will have to end this..if he is not willing to see your point of view or understand what he did was wrong.
Let me know how it goes..
Tammy
red flags
ive been with this man 9mths( jan ), we dated 13 yrs ago for awhile, within the 3rd mth of getting back together he proposed to me said im the one after all this time (we are both 39), i said yes everything just felt so right and it has for a while. we exchanged passwords for everything so that there would be no trust issues but i ran across some old comments in his inbox on fb that had been marked spam and not deleted, well from may on there was conversations with other women flirting exchanging phone numbers and sex talk photos, noting not in a relationship or recently engaged, all restricted from the public to see unless they were friends. i cant prove my finace has acted on any of these actions only the prove of communication that i seen, but a few of the girls i contacted have said they had hooked up once each girl, but one saidwhen she found out he was engaged they stop seeing him and told him off another girl contacted me right away and told me he contacted her first and did some serious convincing that he wanted her and that he was unhappy at home and that her rushed into something he doesnt know how to get out of that he and his kid would be homeless if she caused problems right now to hang in there till he finds out what to do. this was back in may for christ sake! am i stupid or he just that dam good at convincing me he loves me and that im the only one? i confronted him, he said girls are just trying to break us up, he is not doing anything wrong and mark his word if he didnt want to be with me he wouldnt be. we have a great home and we have blended our family-his son and my two kids, he has 3 other children that visit. so what is your advice to this? i am feeling a little insecure and nontrusty right now, hurt and angry, but hard to believe too. am i stupid for not wanting this to end?
Great post Tammy! You listed the first subtle signs that most women take for granted. Once you see this signs it is best that you start taking note of little things and jump into action
you should leave him. i caught my husband talking with a girl from another country (supposedly) and he made a comment to her like “Hi doll I report to so you know that i am thinking about you”. I don’t know if i will ever get over it. I don’t feel that i trust him anymore. I am not sure why you are still there with all those times he has cheated on you and know it. I don’t know if i will stick around much longer.
Dea Paige
know that we are here for you any time you need to talk. Sometimes a marriage can’t be saved, it can only end as painlessly as possible. I hope you can find someone to support you through this, it will be hard, but you are strong enough.
Good luck, we are thinking of you
Tammy
Paige,
I have been cheated on as well as suspect I’ve been cheated on in my current relationship. I’m engaged to this man an every time we fight he has to talk to other girls an ask them to hook up an ask them to send him pictures. Getting over being cheated on is something that you yourself has to do. Yes I know its hard but you will find that one person that will treat you like the queen you are an make you realize you don’t deserve what you’ve been put through. It is your husbands fault he’s lost you an your love an he will one day see that when his family he tore apart is no longer together an happy like a family should be. Keep your chin up, be strong, an know that you have done nothing wrong an none of this is your fault.<3
I have made up my mind and I cant stay in this marriage and I know that it might sound wrong but im not sure I want to forgive him. As many times as he done it and admitted it could be more I just cant live with it. I not able financial to leave right away but im getting myself ready to so I can. I think he knows this but doesnt want to face it he still wants to work on things but I just cant anymore. thanks for responding but more for just listening cause I dont have anyone I could have talked to.
Oh my dear Paige
if you have family to go to, I would, I would take your kids and go visit your family and cry a lot..because that helps..and your family will help. and they can be angry along with you. GET ANGRY PAIGE – not defeated, that won’t move you forward…so he has cheated AGAIN in this last year?? Is that what you are saying..that he has screwed around since the promise of it all being over?
You cannot feel lost..your kids need you, that is all you can do now Paige, focus on your kids. If you cannot afford to leave him straight away, start to figure out how you can..if you want to?
If you stay with him..expect to be cheated on unless you get truly angry and take charge..if he wants the marriage and he wants his kids, he may fight for it and work with you. ASK THE HARD QUESTION – ask him if he wants to stay married… whatever his answer, do not try to do this on your own..go get some help, support, friends, family, minister/pastor…that will help with the feeling lost the self-esteem takes a bit longer.
Let me know?
Tammy
Thanks for the reply I apperciate the advice …but I just found out he has cheated about 15 times I feel like such a fool and I have almost no self.esteem and a loss of worth I have 3 kids with him and dont know what to do I just feel lost
Dear Paige
NO it is not alright to “put him to the test”, it is very wrong, and it says a lot about how you feel that you should even think of doing this! But you know that, in your heart this is something you know you should not do. It has been nearly a year, but like any trauma, it takes time to get over the loss of trust and the feeling of betrayal. No, I cannot tell you that your husband will not cheat again..I’m not sure that anyone can tell you that..except your husband, and at some point you will believe him, or he will betray you again.
Trust is earned, you don’t just decide to trust, but you CAN decide that you want to believe him and are going to behave as if you do! This may sound odd, but if you can try to behave as if you trust him, keep telling yourself that it will be alright, then the behavior becomes less artificial and more natural. You do need to tell your husband that you WANT to trust him but you need his HELP to do so. Other women have said the following helps
1. He tells you where he is all of the time and he calls you regularly
2. You occasionally call him (to reassure yourself) and he is fine with this and is happy to take your call
3. You spend time together with nobody else there, spoiling each other, nice music, food, candles, baths, etc…just you and him, the phone off the hook..
4. You PLAN good things to do, you do not let days drift into weeks where you don’t spend good time with each other
Paige, marriage takes work, from both sides. Sit down with your husband and work out what will make you feel better about your relationship and be honest! You are still very young and yet you have been married 5 years..you are both learning how to be married WELL…keep going, keep trying and keep communicating…it will get better
I hope this helps
Tammy
I have been married for five years and am 23 almost 24. My husband has cheated on me 4 times but he promises he wont do it again and he has improved it seems. I still dont trust him and its been almost a year since the last time. I love him a lot but I cant seem to get passed this the trust issue makes our relationship so hard at times it feels like a dead end road. How long is long enough to trust him again fully is that possible and how? I have been thinking of testing him by having an attractive frmale tempt him and see if he takes the bait. I just wana know but I feel wrong about doing it but it feels like the only way I will know if he can ressit temptation. What should I do is it ok to put him to the test?
Thank you G!!
Please come back and see how this forum works out…we need people like you to help those in pain!
Tammy
Tammy…it’s called CLOSURE!!!! and no matter what form it comes in!!! until you feel that you have come to terms with the betrayal and deceipt, you do what you have to do!! Believe me…god does not pay his debts back in money and karma is a very powerful thing!! keep ur chin up girl!!!
Tammy…it’s called CLOSURE!!!! and no matter what form it comes in!!! until you feel that you have come to terms with the betrayal and deceipt, you do what you have to do!! Believe me…god does not pay his debts back in money and karma is a very powerful thing!! keep ur chin up girl!!!
Always ask questions and follow your instinct!!! i was married for 18 years and when my marriage ended i met a beautiful man/boy 20 years younger than myself!!! I’m a realist and knew it wouldn’t last forever! But when i found out that he cheated on me, by surprisingly asking to see his text messages and catching him of guard, he had no choice (if he had nothing to hide) and seeing the evidence, although it broke my heart, i pushed and asked questions until i got the closure i needed to kick his ass to the kerb!! Hearts are very delicate but they can be fixed! Love yourself and realise what your worth…
Always ask questions and follow your instinct!!! i was married for 18 years and when my marriage ended i met a beautiful man/boy 20 years younger than myself!!! I’m a realist and knew it wouldn’t last forever! But when i found out that he cheated on me, by surprisingly asking to see his text messages and catching him of guard, he had no choice (if he had nothing to hide) and seeing the evidence, although it broke my heart, i pushed and asked questions until i got the closure i needed to kick his ass to the kerb!! Hearts are very delicate but they can be fixed! Love yourself and realise what your worth…
OK Y
you told your family that your boyfriend was cheating and now they are angry with him, want to support you and you think you may have got it all wrong???
The girls …not just ONE but SEVERAL??? call and tell you otherwise..because they are trying to “mess things up”" or maybe they are just trying to warn you that your boyfriend is fooling around and watch out?
Do not worry about convincing your family, they are on your side whatever the truth is, and frankly it sounds like your boyfriend is lying! He may not have meant anything serious with these girls, he was just flirting, messing about, who knows…but right now, what you need is the truth if at all possible.
Tell your family that you are trying to work out what on earth is going on, that he may have just been silly, or the girls may have taken it the wrong way, but YOU NEED THEIR SUPPORT WHILE YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT IS GOING ON!
Then I think you should tell your boyfriend that you told your family and that you need a straight answer or else you cannot work this out between you.
Good luck, let me know what happens or if I can help further, first things first..talk to him, and if you want to believe him, then use our motto
TRUST, but VERIFY…in other words, check what he does, see what happens , and be cautious.
Take care
Tammy
Tammy
My boyfriend has kalked other femails of my phone and then tells me that they are family but yet this girls call in tell me other wise he sys they are trying to mess things up for us I really wanna belive him but the thing is I told my family that he was cheatting and if he was not then likr how can I convence my family it was a misunderstanding….can you gave me some advice.
Rahul
one day you may grow up..in the meantime I hope the women in your life find out quickly what your attitude is and…run very fast in the opposite direction!
Tammy
I love to cheat , am 23 , i cheat first , in case they cheat , its called security , and every man i know does the same , always will do , just in case the girl is a goldigger , loose as hell , i do rather well , it is mans world and always will be , in fact men are regaining former glory , always do DNA test on your girls children , likely they arent yours , if they are black then its ok you knowÂ
Dear Christina
although you say you do not feel guilty, I am not quite sure I understand what you want from this man. Do you want him to leave his wife (who is clearly in a bad way) or do you just want him to stop caring about his wife and feeling guilty about the affair?
It is hard to stop this affair because… you love him? You have children, he has a small daughter and a wife who keeps having breakdowns. The pressure on him must be enormous..is he having an affair with you because his wife is so hard to deal with, or does his attitude to the marriage CONTRIBUTE TO her breakdowns?
You may not feel guilty Christina, but you are now involved in this marriage and this family, and you are affecting it..so you cannot pretend otherwise.
Think about that?
Tammy
I have been seeing a married man for three months. He says he feels guilty, but he keeps seeing me. His wife has been institutionalized three times in the past year, and they have a small daughter. At first he told me he was falling in love with me, was in love with me…etc…I was with him one night and his phone kept ringing. I got my keys and told him I was taking him to his car, he almost cried and begged me not to. Everyone makes the other woman into such a terrible person. I have a family, and I didn’t plan this. It is a lot harder to stop something like this. It is almost like opening a floodgate. Do I feel guilty? No, I am not the one that is married.
T
do you want things to get better? Do you want him to stop cheating? You say you know, and NOW are fed up, because he gives her time that is yours…but why have you not challenged him about the cheating? What is different now? is he seeing her a lot more recently? If so, that is because you haven’t challenged him, he thinks you are ok with this! If you want to save your marriage, DO SOMETHING! Talk to him, let him know, you know and it is NOT OK!
Let me know what you do?
Tammy
i no my husband is cheating he has been cheating for a long time but now i’m tired of it the lies of overnite working 2days at a time she takes him to work every morning pick him up he gets off at 2:30pm and comes home at 8:00pm he should be giving me that time thats why im angry and to no the fact of my husband sleeping w/ another woman is hurtful i feel if things were to get better how can i trust him again once a cheat always a cheat:(
Hey there!
Glad to have surprised you with a reply!! I am glad you are learning to trust your instincts, and no, I did not truly think you would sleep around, we say stuff like that when we are truly hurting. But, it is good every now and then to have someone hold up a mirror and say, hey do you like what you see?
You are a long way ahead of a lot of couples going through this, you say, “we have really talked about everything” that is so great, just remember, keep talking, but now try and move the talking forwards. One of the awful parts of betrayal like this, is getting stuck in the “how could this happen” loop, you know where the same stuff goes round and round and round in your head.
You will have your good days and bad days, on a good day tell him about what a bad day feels like and ask him to help you get past it. have a phrase you use, I dunno, “rainy day” is a good one, it means ” Today I feel like crying a lot, and am all angry with you again!”
If he understands that you feel like this, he will be better equipped to help you through it, otherwise he may feel that he is being punished all over again and that you will never forgive him.
Just remember, this is a journey, not a short trip to happy land, it will take time, but BE KIND TO EACH OTHER, and the healing will be a lot faster.
Take care, and thank you for letting us know how you are doing.
Tammy
Tammy
Thankyou for your advice. I feel real stupid for putting up that last comment. I wouldnt sleep around cause im not that sort of person. I just wanted to hurt him like he has hurt me.
We are now coming up to 4 weeks since i found out, its real hard to try and get us back on track and we have really talked about everything. I do believe him and i only believe him cause i know him and i can sort of tell when he is lying. My gut instinct told me a long time ago something was wrong i just never had any proof. I also now know to trust my gut instinct.
I honestly never thought peope reply on these sights : ) …….. Thats why my last comment was a bit extreme. I have my good days and my bad days, i just hope we come out the other end.
Thankyou for replying tammy xxx
Hello NTKnow
You said it yourself, ..trust me it never stops…well it can YOU CAN STOP IT. Where is your pride? You have taken back this man because you love him…he has betrayed you with your friend, a girl who has very little self respect, and you want to be like her? You want to sleep around to pay him back? But you don’t want to get caught..so how is this paying him back? how does this make you feel good? IT DOES NOT
You are hurting yourself even more than he has hurt you and you have to stop this now
You are better than this..you are better than him! he says he was drunk, you think he is lying..I agree with you, you know what I think? I think he sees your friend as easy, so why not? she is such a good friend of yours she thinks why not? WHAT ABOUT YOU? Are you going to be as cheap and deceitful as they are? Are you going to think WHY NOT?
I will tell you WHY NOT – because you are better than that girlfriend, you deserve better than that, and becuase I don’t think you really want to do this..You are hurting, that is understandable, he needs to truly realize what he has done. You have taken him back because you love him, that does not mean he is off the hook. He has to earn your trust back, and you have to decide whether you believe him, and if you cannot trust him, if you know it is all a lie…LEAVE HIM. It takes TWO to repair a relationship…and remember you deserve more than this!
Tammy
Seriously ladies or men these signs are all true and i know this cause my guy has cheated on me. It was heart breaking especially when i found out who the girl was. Not being big headed or nothing but i am a way nicer and better person than her. She WAS my friend and also known as the town bike, all my male friends have had a go on her and now my boyfriend. I found this out about 3 weeks ago but i have known for about 2 years that something was just not right. He says his sorry that he cant remember anything cause he was too drunk ( apparently) its ashame that he thinks im that thick im gonna believe his bullshit excuses. He had sex with her and he loved now thats the truth. Dont ask me why, but for some strange reason i have taken him back, its a stupid little thing called love but i dont want to love him no more cause i know he cant love me if he has cheated. But all is not lost cause if he thinks he can have his cake and eat it, well then so can i. Yeah i know 2 wrongs dont make a right , but what he dont know wont hurt him, right. I also will not get caught cause im not as dumb as him. Well i hope what i have said helps someone, but i will also say if your man cheats on you, do NOT take him back, dont be stupid like i am, cause thats when the fun and games really start to begin. Who can get one over on who, trust me it never stops
theres ths guy am seeing, we work in diff states.i suspect he cheats on me usually his phone is busy arund 10pm bt wen am wt hm no1 calls tht tym.wen am out of sight am oso out of hs mind bt hv failed 2catch him.though i feel he cheats
Most guys cheat but if they’re taking care of home then who cares