Surviving Infidelity

If you are in a situation where your partner/husband is cheating on you then you are probably asking yourself “Why do men cheat?”. Well there are several factors that come into play when a man is faced with the decision of weather to cheat or be faithful.

Your world has just splintered, everything you took for granted is up for question now; you have just discovered your husband was having an affair, and the hurt is unbearable. Those first few moments when you find out that the person you love is a liar and a cheat, that he has been holding someone else in his arms, that he has betrayed you; those first few moments are the worst.

For most women who find out that their husband was cheating on them, the first considered reaction, and question they ask themselves is, how could this happen? You may not have had any idea that your marriage was in trouble, or maybe you had asked yourself, is he cheating on me, and dismissed the notion as foolish, ridiculous, and unthinkable.

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After an extramarital affair you will feel various emotions because of his infidelity and emotional betrayal. Don’t let these control you…Rage , it is perfectly normal to feel angry, at your betrayer for having an extramarital affair, at yourself, at his friends who kept the secret, at your friends who did not warn you, at the world for letting this happen!

The profound and powerful emotions, experienced upon discovering marital affairs, can cause significant emotional health damage to the person experiencing them, if they are not handled properly. How can you handle the strong emotions triggered by a husband’s infidelity? Closing down and effectively shutting out anyone who can help is not the answer.

Many women describe the first weeks after discovering their husband’s extramarital affair as a mindless jumble of emotions. For some those weeks pass in a blur and they cannot remember much about what they did, let alone what they said. This is critically important, as I have said before, just after finding out you have been betrayed is not the best time to be making any decisions.

The breathing exercise you tried before is very basic, but simple as it may be, it is effective when dealing with infidelity, as long as you keep doing it. This can greatly help you when dealing with infidelity. The banishment of your negative thoughts took two steps so far, writing them down, and breathing through them.

Sometimes, for some people, the betrayal or extramarital affairs seem so great that the images imagined, the thoughts of hurt and misery are so strong they replay endlessly in the mind. These thoughts seem to have a life of their own, and although they are imaginings if they are relentlessly replayed, they take on a reality of their own.

It is now after the affair, and you have spent some time thinking about your feelings, trying to put your negative thoughts aside and making an effort to understand your emotions. The initial shock is over, and your husband’s cheating is out in the open and those people who left you alone at the start, now expect you to take some action.

Building self-confidence after the affair is about looking back at what worked and looking forward to what could work. You have survived an extramarital affair, it may not feel that way right now, but tell yourself enough times that you are a survivor and you will start to believe it. This is what is known as self-affirmation. It is what you practiced when you replaced negative thoughts with positive ones.